| July 13 , 2005
Dear Anna J.,
Ok I am in a bind. Somehow I was talking to this person and well they said they liked me. It was some little kid stuff, but I can't get it on my own you know. Well I found out he had a girlfriend and in some words he said she was going to break up with him. He was right; they broke up and he told me that he loved her and wanted her back, but before they broke up it was as if he couldn't wait until they did so he could be with me. What do you think i should do?
Signed,
R
Dear R,
Personally I would walk away. Why get yourself caught up in such confusion? The one thing you learn about people is actions speak louder than words. He talked your head off about how he couldn't wait for them to break up, and when they did he flipped the script. That's a WARNING sign in flashing red lights. Run for the hills while you can. It may hurt now, but your heart will thank you later.
XOXO,
Anna J |
March 1, 2005
Dear Anna J.,
Me and my fiance of two years recently seperated, and I don't know what to do. He was a good man, took care of business in both the bedroom and around the house, but when it came to him finding a steady job and working he got an "F" in that department.
He just didn't want to work, and I had to tell him on so many occasions that our house didn't need anyone to watch it. That's why there are locks on the doors!
Well, after months of compromising, I finally packed his bags and put him out because like I told him before, love don't pay the bills and keep a roof over our heads. He hasn't contacted me since he left, and I miss him, but I can't help but wonder if he was just in it to use me. I'm tempted to call him and try to work it out, but a part of me won't let me pick up the phone. What should I do?
Signed,
Hurt and Confused
Dear Hurt and Confused,
Today is the first day of your new life. A man that doesn't work doesn't eat, and if he isn't bringing anything to the table, thenwhat are you keeping him around for?
Just be glad you found out what you did before you spent money on a wedding. I'm sure it can get lonely sometimes, and if thats the case surround yourself with people that love and care about your well being.
You'll forget him just like you forgot the last one, and if it's a sex thing, a silver bullet will do just nicely. Don't waste your time on people you can't change. Find someone you are compatible with, or just be happy with your damn self because if you're not happy with you, how can you bring joy to someone else?
XOXO,
Anna J |
