Sex-related Questions

Dear Anna J.,

A few months ago, I introduced lesbian porn into the bedroom. My girlfriend protested at first, but then she really got into it. Now it seems like she is no longer interested in sex with me unless there is a girl-on-girl fantasy playing on the TV or in her head. Is she gay? Will I ever be enough for her?

Signed,
Not Enough

Dear Not Enough,  

Dare I say, "you get what you ask for?" I wouldn't go as far as saying she's gay, but you may have fully opened a door that was merely just cracked before. From the sounds of it, she may just be a voyeur. The only sure way to find out is to ask her, and if push comes to shove and you play your cards right, you may get that threesome you probably hinted about at one time or another. Or, this could be just a phase. Either way, if you haven't caught her in the act then hang in there--no pun intended.

XOXO,
Anna J

Dear Anna J.,

I read a lot of black books including yours and I really love a good sex scene. I notice that in a lot of books the men always have 9-10 inch penises. I wish I was as lucky as some of these characters you authors create. Most of us only get 5-6. Will you ever show some love to the average joes?

Signed,
A Lil' Bit Of Love Is All It Takes

Dear A Lil' Bit,

Some say it's not the size of the boat, but the motion of the ocean. On a personal note, I'd prefer the titanic, but that's not to say that a little tugboat can't get the job done. If the stroke isn't there all the way, hopefully you're making up for it in other areas....

XOXO,
Anna J. 

Dear Anna J.,

My husband is stationed in Iraq and since he's been gone, I have had to use a vibrator to please myself. Is there any damage I could be doing (loss of sensitivity)? I want to make sure I don't do anything to throw our sex life off when he comes home.

Signed,
Lonely Vibes

Dear Lonely,

Since I'm not a doctor, I can't say much for loss of sensitivity because I use my bullet ALL the time and have never had a problem. What I will say is this: being that you are controlling your orgasm yourself, you may reach your climax quicker because unlike with your husband you are doing it for the soul purpose of receiving pleasure then being done with it. If it does in fact pose a problem with hubby, introduce him to a new way of lovemaking while incorporating your toys in the fun. That way you won't miss out on an instant orgasm, and he will experience a change of pace.

XOXO,
Anna J